A Parent’s Guide to Sensory Toys for Kids with Sensory Processing Differences

For parents navigating the complex world of sensory processing differences, finding the right toys and creating supportive environments can feel overwhelming. Anne Barber emphasizes that understanding each child’s unique sensory needs is vital for successful play experiences.

“Sensory processing is complex: a single child can respond differently to each of their five senses—being overly sensitive to some sensations (hyper-sensitive) while under-responsive to others (hypo-sensitive). For example, a child might be extremely sensitive to loud sounds but actively seek out deep pressure or touch,” explains Barber.

Understanding Sensory Processing: A Deeper Look

Each child’s experience with sensory processing is unique. Here’s what parents need to know:

Hyper- vs. Hypo-Sensitivity

• Hypersensitivity: Children may be defensive or avoidant of certain sensory inputs
• Hypo-sensitivity: Children may actively seek out additional sensory stimulation
• Mixed responses: Some children are hyper-sensitive to some sensations while seeking others

Signs Your Child May Need Sensory Support

Sensory-avoiding behaviors:

• Becoming overwhelmed in busy environments
• Resisting touch or certain textures
• Withdrawing from sensory experiences
• Displaying shutdown or freeze responses

Sensory-seeking behaviors:

• Constant movement or fidgeting
• Seeking deep pressure or touch
• High activity levels
• Need for additional stimulation

“For children seeking sensory stimulation, playing with sand offers the feedback they’re looking for,” Barber explains. “For sensory-avoidant children, start by placing a favorite toy near the sand, gradually moving it closer until they engage directly. This bridge makes new experiences feel safe.”

Creating a Sensory-Safe Environment

Establishing a consistent “sensory zone” or “quiet zone” gives children a reliable safe haven to self-regulate.

Essential Elements of a Sensory Zone

• Calming lighting (e.g., mood lamps)
• Comfortable seating
• Easy access to fidget toys
• Quiet space away from household activity
• Sensory-friendly toys within reach

“A sensory-avoidant child knows that space is always there when they need it,” Barber emphasizes.

Types of Sensory Toys and Their Benefits

Tactile Exploration Tools

• Kinetic Sand: A mess-free way to explore texture
• Crazy Aaron’s Putty: Features hidden objects for discovery
• Fidget Toys: Various textures and resistance levels

Visual and Calming Elements

• Mood lamps
• Glow-in-the-dark stars and decals
• Calming visual displays

Interactive Play Options

• Simon (lights, sounds, and touch)
• Bop It
• Interactive movement games

“Engage as many senses as possible—movement, sound, and lights—to meet sensory-seeking needs,” advises Barber.

Success Through Strategic Play

Gradual Exposure Techniques

• Start with kinetic sand at home
• Progress to indoor sandbox play
• Move to a park sandbox
• Finally, experience beach sand on vacation

“Each step bridges to the next, building confidence with positive experiences,” Barber notes.

Recognizing Sensory States

Hyper-activated State:

• Disruptive behaviors
• Increased movement
• Irritability
• Seeking interaction

Hypo-aroused State:

• Shutdown or freeze response
• Withdrawal
• Desire for isolation

“Check in with your child to understand their current state—do they need quiet or activity? Then adapt your approach accordingly,” Barber explains.

On-the-Go Solutions

• Compact fidget toys
• Travel-sized sensory tools

“Portable tools help children self-regulate outside the home,” Barber says.

Building a Sensory Toy Collection

Calming Tools

• Kinetic sand sets
• Mood lighting
• Soft textured items
• Weighted options

Stimulating Options

• Interactive games
• Movement-based toys
• Multi-sensory experiences
• Pattern-based activities

“Think of sensory processing on a spectrum,” Barber reminds. “Your child’s toolkit should reflect their unique profile.”

Key Takeaways for Parents

• Observe to understand your child’s sensory profile
• Create a consistently accessible sensory space
• Introduce new experiences gradually
• Combine familiar items with new sensory elements
• Keep portable tools ready for outings

“Start with the smallest exposure and build positive experiences,” Barber advises. “Each success teaches them they can handle what once overwhelmed them.”

Finding the Right Support

• Hands-on experience at specialty stores
• Expert guidance in selecting items
• Opportunity to test textures
• Access to specialized products

“Talking with knowledgeable staff helps you find the best tools for your child,” Barber notes.

Resources and Next Steps

• Consult occupational therapy professionals
• Visit specialty toy stores
• Create a home sensory zone
• Start with adjustable sensory tools
• Monitor and adapt based on your child’s responses

Supporting a child with sensory processing differences means providing tools and environments that help them engage comfortably with the world around them.

About the Expert: Anne Barber is the founder of Reaware Outreach, a nonprofit offering psychotherapy to neurodivergent clients and breaking down barriers to care.

The information in this article is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Anne Barber’s opinions are her own.